Should you take your advice from your friends, from family or from colleagues?
OR should you seek it from a professional – a coach, a guide or a mentor?
What is the DIFFERENCE?
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The guidance you get from your friends, family or colleagues will not be the same as the guidance you can receive from a professional. The reason for this is that more often your friends, family and colleagues have a set idea about you. Hence, they are not likely to examine your issues or the situation fundamentally or in great detail. Instead, they will make some suggestions according to the image they carry of you in their mind. And that advice is unlikely to be what you really need.
Further, they usually don’t adjust their suggestions according to the feedback you provide them as you try to IMPLEMENT their advice. Instead, they may even judge your performance as good or bad against the advice they had given.
Discussing your affairs with a coach, guide or mentor will be a totally different experience. They want you to get things right. Hence, they will go into the details. They will examine your assumptions, your values, your beliefs and your actions so as to diagnose your problem; to know where exactly you are stuck; where the bottleneck point on your way is. Then they will suggest what you need to do right now to get your matters moving. Then further, as you continue to consult them, they keep a track on you. They will help you to navigate through your difficulties – making you more aware and more capable
Then why do people prefer to take their guidance from friends and family? The guidance from friends and family is usually convenient and free; whereas advice from a professional can be inconvenient and will cost some money. However, if you measure the cost in real terms, which is in terms of the value you actually receive, the professional advice will usually turn out to be much cheaper. Professional advice will clear the confusion in your mind; it will give you the direction that you need to overcome the difficulty that you are actually faced with. Further, professional advice is not always expensive. There are many benevolent professionals who consider the success of their client to be a part of their reward or success.